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Natural or Caesarean?

I have the choice of having an elective caesarean or going natural with my second pregnancy. I have been told it is totally up to me. The hospital will support whatever decision I make.
I am almost at the halfway point of my pregnancy, and I feel like it has gone in a flash. I honestly don’t know where the time has gone.
As the time goes on, I have moments where I think “yes I am going to go natural!”. But then a moment later my fears, and concerns overtake me and I am back at my first thought. I honestly feel I will end up having an elective caesarean. In my heart of hearts, I don’t know if I have the courage to try and go natural and leave it to fate as to what happens.
When I was pregnant with my son, I was so excited about the labour and trying to go natural. I was open minded, and ready to take on the world. I felt like super woman, and that I truly could do it. After all, women have been having babies naturally for centuries- it is what our bodies are designed to do.
But after my experiences, and the pain I had to go through, I am not as brave as I used to be. My fears and anxiety have the better of me now. All I want is for my baby and I to be happy and healthy. I have listed all the pros and cons of natural vs caesarean, and I always end up in the same spot. I always end up in the elective caesarean column.
My decision isn’t set in concrete, and as time passes I may change my mind.
I have till early decemeber to decide. Plenty of time. Maybe by then I would have plucked up the courage to give it a crack, and see if I can do it naturally.
Time will tell.

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The lessons I have learnt since becoming a mummy…..

Valuables lessons I have learnt in the last year:

– There is no such thing as a pain free labour and birth (somewhere along the journey you will experience pain)
– You do recover after having a baby
– Babies cry sometimes for no reason
– Who ever invented white baby clothes was just not thinking
– Baby poo does change in colour, consistency and smell many times in the first year
– Your baby is here to be shared (family, friends and strangers just love babies)
– Your love will grow more and more each day for your child
– You will have some very tough days (and often question your ability as a parent)
– Your time becomes precious
– You really start appreciating the little things (such as having a shower, and getting a 30 minute sleep in)
– Every developmental stage has its pros and cons
– Don’t wish the time away (these early years and months are truly precious)
– Accept all offers of help (and always ask for help if needed)
– Don’t compare yourself to others
– Breathe
– Adult company is important
– It is okay to be a little selfish sometimes (don’t forget the things that make you happy such as getting your nails done or buying a new outfit)
– Your baby will need you no matter how big they get
– Don’t be too hard on yourself
– There is no one right way to being a parent
– There will be many trial and errors
– Be thankful and count your blessings